“Humor is a common defense mechanism. Some funny people like to make themselves and others laugh because it keeps them from crying. It distracts people from the real issues and pokes fun at things to minimize the impact. Albeit temporarily.”
This is so true! Was just thinking about it today, what a coincidence to come across this on Tumblr! Lately I’ve noticed that a lot more people were dealing with all kind of shit than I suspected. I don’t think it’s an abnormal situation, people are just good in hiding things and putting on masks.
A friend of mine is risking her health because she’s doing way too much to handle and therefore is extremely stressed some periods - if she keeps going on like this, she will end up in the same situation as me-. Another friend feels depressed because of her medication, two other people I hang out with turned out to be depressed (on a somewhat longer basis) and there is this friend from back home who felt so bad a while ago that she talked about ‘not wanting to be here anymore’ and ‘what’s the use?’…
It’s actually quite strange because I think the people I’ve surrounded myself with are the most happy, funny, adorable and affectionate people I have ever. They are always there to help you out and and I feel so lucky knowing all of them. But maybe if you know what it’s like to feel really really down, you recognize it in other people and tend to help them and be there for them. My old friends from high school are very special to me, and my ‘new’ friends from college are just incredible because many of them have such big hearts. But that could also have to do with my study (International development studies), where interest in global problems and sympathy for the ‘weaker’ is sort of a requisite.
Such a shame that there nowadays still seems to be a taboo on feeling unhappy. I’m not saying that everyone should act completely miserable in public (because after all, eventually things will always get better) , but it’s such a waste of anyone’s energy to always have to pretend.